Perhaps a year ago while doing the visualization in a Karmic String Release Process, I became aware that I wanted the person I was focused on to be more like me. And just recently a friend told me the same thing while I was discussing a situation involving someone. He simply said it: “You want her to be like you.” Okay. I got it! In both circumstances, I was experiencing upset and the seeming answer was for "them" to be like me. Whoa!
Given that, people’s behaviors wouldn’t bother me, because they’d behave as I want. When first I expressed this in the visualization, I recognized it as a problem. It’s a mistake to believe if people were like me my life would be easier and I could have what I want. LOL.
As it so often goes, I’ve begun to see this idea expressed by others as well and I easily recognize this is not the answer. While this kind of thinking may allow us to put the responsibility for our discomfort on someone else, it just isn’t so. I alone, am responsible for what I think and feel. Besides, imagine a world populated with everyone being just like me, or just like you. How bizarre would that be?
And then I consider that it’s December and Christmas is upon us. This is a time we strive to love and accept people as they are. Our inner work is to experience greater peace and freedom and is also to be better able to love without conditions; without a need for someone to behave or be different. Unconditional love is the most highly valued love. Some would add that only when love is unconditional does it qualify as love.
I’m going to go with this and practice acceptance and love with a willingness to be of help. I’m going to confront the lies I want to tell myself that my reactions, worries and fears are because of someone else. I know as I progress, I too will experience more love, freedom, self-acceptance and joy. Christmas is a time of miracles and maybe even of greatness. In the highest, most impersonal light, I have to wonder what greatness can be…for you and for me.
All the best for Christmas and the New Year.